lately i've been struggling with self confidence, and i have been really hard on myself, i believe that we all go trough hard times, and that we struggle with our insecurities on almost a daily basis. we allow for negative thoughts to consume our minds, and its hard to get rid of those feelings.
1. The Fashion Industry:
i know i am a fashion designer, and its a harsh industry. theres the constant feeling of not being good enough, not beautiful enough, not slender enough. theres always hesitation, theres alot of self doubt, there's too much negativity towards myself and my art. but theres a reason why i stick with it, and thats because i LOVE what i do. yes it may be superficial, but it makes me feel good. yes beauty is not always whats on the outside, but i feel better on the outside because of my love for what i do. its by no means easy, and i am constantly worn out, and exhausted and i'm too busy to go out, but i have the satisfaction of accomplishing something beautiful at the end of the day, and thats what makes me feel good!
2. You are only Human, but you are amazing!
take a moment each day to take a step back from everything you have to get done, and have to accomplish and have to go and do, and reflect on the postive things about yourself. make a list of things or people you are greatful for, and reflect on the things that make you happy.
i am all too consummed by everything that i have going on, and i tend to make things harder and more stressful for myself but constantly thinking about everything i must do. i forget to take care of my body and my mind, and put work and school ahead of that.
sometimes i need to remind myself that i am only human, and i am allowed to make mistakes, or that its ok to not finish a homework assignment once in a while, or that i can't always be the most amazing employee that day.
its ok to take a day off and get away from all that.
3. My Faith, and My Outlook
as for my self image, God created me to be exactly how i am, maybe you don't believe in God, but i'm sure you believe in something, and that faith will make you a stronger and more beautiful person when you believe.
i have flaws, i am not perfect, i have zits, and occasionally my hair looks greasy, maybe i dont have the most amazing outfit, or i've got dark circles under my eyes, but that makes me no less of a person, and makes me no less beautiful if i let go of those insecurities and just be the person God made me to be.
they say a smile is the most beautiful accessory a person can wear, and thats true. sometimes, even when you're feeling sad, just smiling can make or break how you feel the rest of the day.
starting off with a negative attitude will only make you feel worse. i will be the first to admit that its hard to shake those negative feelings, but just remember, other people will feed off your attitude as well, and if its a negative one then you're creating a negative environment and you yourself will only feel worse in the end.
4. Never Neglect Opportunity
each day we are given so many opportunities, to make ourself a better person, to make someone else's day better, to make someone else feel loved, but those opporunities start from yourself. so give yourself the opportunity each day to make not only yourself feel better but someone else.
an opportunity may only come once, and you can't be scared of failure. yes it feels awful to fail, but why deny yourself an opportunity because of fear. most likely you'll end up regretting it, and life is too short for regret.
mistakes are apart of life. and you only grow and become better at who you are and what you do if you make mistakes. sure its a struggle but the outcome can only be a positive one
5. In Conclusion
in conclusion remember that you are beautiful, and an amazing person, and you have so many opportunities in life. don't bring yourself down and miss out. stay positive, take care of yourself, and induldge once in a while. we are only human, and every single one of us deserves the very best.
i love you all and i hope this helped you as much as it helped myself to write it
Much Love <3
This is beautiful and made me cry, not because it's beautiful, but because it's written by my wonderful daughter, whom I love dearly, whom I believe in implicitly and without reservation. You are beautiful inside and out!
ReplyDeleteJessica, Your post is the most inspirational thing I have read in such a long time. It's something that has hit me personally in my heart and soul. Thank you for sharing your feeling and reminding us we are all beautiful inside and out. I really enjoy reading your blog. <3
ReplyDeleteThis is so true in many ways! I am so happy you have come to terms with who you are and why you are doing what you do. Beauty comes from within and radiates outward. Everyday is not perfect, but it is our gift to do with as we please.
ReplyDeleteYou, beautiful lady, are doing a fabulous job and I am blessed to see you blossom. Thank you!